Anyone who has been following my blogs, knows that I’m not what you would call, a scene queen or a massive party animal. Sure, I like a few drinks, a dance and some shenanigans occasionally, but I wouldn’t say I’m the actively social clubbing type. I did however venture out to a lesbian event for the first time in a long while last night.
How things have changed!
For starters, I felt so ridiculously old! Apart from the girls that I was with, there was not one face that I recognised, which is a massive change to the usual lesbian event where you could easily see at least 20 girls you know, or know of. As a matter of fact, all these faces I was looking at, I wasn’t sure whether they were old enough to be there. I was surrounded by a room full of freshies. The new generation of lesbian has arrived! And I must have missed the memo that the typical lesbian wardrobe had evolved. Apparently, it’s now basketball jerseys and top hats that are all the rage, which is a far cry from the baggy jeans and the oversized singlets I last remember seeing during my prime clubbing time.
I did sit down and think about it, and realised that all of those “ex scene girls” I was so used to seeing back in the day, like me, had just grown up. They are all now in their mid twenties… have partners and have moved out. They have careers, mortgages and expenses, with less disposable income to spend on booze and quite honestly, they’d prefer a night in to snuggle with their better half, as opposed to going out on the town.
I felt a slight pang of nostalgic sadness last night, with part of me missing the things and the people that I used to know as “home” when I went out on the scene. I have always had a love hate relationship with the lesbian scene. All the drama, all the craziness, it is what it is. But our priorities change, and you pass on the torch to the next group of baby dykes, who are just beginning to live the roller coaster we’ve just departed. It makes me wonder where the ladies who owned the scene before us, are now, and what adventures are to come once you’ve outgrown the scene.