At the risk of stirring up a great homosexual roar of boo’s and hisses, I think that sometimes we as a gay society need to harden up and take on board a bit of constructive criticism. The operative word being constructive. You know what they say, a bit of tough love never hurt anyone. It’s character building. You won’t find any sugar coating in what I write, because I certainly don’t want any favors or people watching what they say around me, just cause I’m gay, so I write in the same way.
As I was sitting on the train during my commute home, I noticed a lesbian couple sitting in the next carriage, having a tender moment… it was cute…but then it turned into a massive pashfest in full view of a group of school kids. After a couple of minutes, an older lady seated close by gave them a look suggestive of “get a room,” to which the girls were offended, made a scene and changed carriages. I honestly believe that this lady would have given the same look to a hetero couple, because this making out was full on!
I’ve heard many a hetero say, “I don’t have any issue with people being gay but I don’t like it flaunted in my face.” Now before we all go getting offended, to my understanding, “flaunting it in someone’s face”, is the over the top pda’s and such. I don’t exactly enjoy watching a couple playing tonsil hockey, regardless of who they’re playing it with, gay or straight, think of the poor bystanders possibly reconsidering eating their lunch due to a couple, of any persuasion seemingly trying to fish for something in their significant others gut.
Through my own personal observations, it seems as though we as gays are more publicly affectionate in comparison to our straight friends.Why is this? Are we out to prove a point? Is it really just a matter of forcing our own agenda? Are we compensating for something? The questions are endless.
I think you’re right. Some people are intentionally provocative when it comes to PDAs, but when some people say ‘don’t flaunt it in my face’ what they actually mean is don’t be near me at all. Don’t hold hands. Don’t be all flamboyant. Whatever. But when it’s well intentioned, they are right. Nobody should be throwing anyone’s sexuality in anyone elses face whether you’re gay or straight, in the way of launching your tongue down another’s throat.
Posted by eaglebyposting | July 23, 2012, 9:09 amMy girlfriend, would TOTALLY agree!! She doesn’t like any pda’s period!! I like holding hands or having my arm around her, but thats enough really, a peck on the lips is ok too. But I completely agree, I think trying to fish for your partners breakfast is gross and I don’t wana see it, and they shouldn’t be trying to show me!!
Posted by Sacha Black | July 23, 2012, 9:15 pmDecency and discretion are sexual-identity-nuetral. Both sides do it, but yes, I agree – some things just belong behind closed doors.
Great post.
Posted by Bill Hansen | July 23, 2012, 11:42 pmI’d have to disagree with you on the hetro v LGBT PDA though. I am in NYC and I’ve seen more than my fair share of hetro sex on the subway. A few times I have seen a woman giving a man a BJ on the trains here. Then a few years ago a hetro couple was arrested for having public sex at St. Patrick’s Cathedral. I wouldn’t throw the LGBT community under the bus by saying they are displaying more PDA’s than hetro folks.
Posted by David GomezGomez | July 26, 2012, 5:28 pmAgree totally. Whoever’s doing it, tonsil hockey is not a spectator sport.
Posted by Rose Matthews | August 10, 2012, 10:29 pmamazing u have a point
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